I have been so unhappy during certain periods of my life that I really never thought I’d feel happy again. During the break up of my first marriage, a falling out with a best friend, the superlatively unhappy post-pregnancy hormones that couldn’t be escaped…
I don’t never become unhappy now, but I have a peace with my unhappiness when it comes. It no longer sentences me to a day, or a life, of doom and gloom. I have to rack it up to having experience with unhappiness and learnt how to deal with it.
You probably have advice for yourself you are not taking when you are unhappy.
There were things you did last time the unhappiness struck that actually worked:
- Go for a walk
- Spend time in nature
- Contemplate the root cause of your unhappiness
- Question its validity. Is it really true that everything is shait?
- Check if you have an undelivered communication
- Ask yourself if you are getting your needs met
- What request do you need to make that you are not making?
- If you are stressed, what can you take off your plate?
- If you are fighting with someone, how can you reconnect?
- If you don’t know what is making you unhappy, you could simply ignore it for a while and say, “for the next 15 minutes, I am going to think about something else”
- Write it all out/get the poison out
- Give yourself a rule, “I am not allowed to harp on this anymore or I have to clean my neighbor’s bathroom”
- Humor does work – watch a funny movie
- Or watch a sad movie to get the tears out if they are stuck
- Question the mind that says that nothing is going to work – because it once did
I dare you to try all of the things on this list and tell me the needle hasn’t moved.
Warmly, Coach Jo