I just finished Seligman’s ¨Learned Optimism¨. Again it was proven that your mindset makes all the difference in your experience of life Luckily, according to Seligman, the optimistic mindset can be learned. If that wasn’t the case, it would be a bummer for all of us not born with it, wouldn’t it…?

I am bringing it up because I think our mindset is the secret weapon when dealing with stress. A recent Stanford study has delved into how to make stress work for us. Personally, I don’t like it, but like aging, it is going to happen – better learn to deal with it well…

Actually, they found that trying to get rid of stress may do more harm than good, due to the the way we customarily do it through escapism – avoidance, entertainment, numbing…

Stress can either break us down or make us more resilient. The reason for that is that ¨stress leaves an imprint on your brain that prepares you to handle similar stress the next time you encounter it.’ It is called stress inoculation and you have basically given yourself a stress vaccine once you are on the other side of the stressful situation at hand.

Lastly, I myself like the ¨temporality vaccine¨ that lies within Buddhist thought. Nothing is staying the same, everything is always changing. In ¨Learned Optimism¨ they also show that optimists tend to relate to a negative event like it’s temporary, while pessimists view it as here to stay. Therefore, I tell myself as often as I can remember…. this too shall pass…

Warmly,

Coach Jo