After giving birth to Sami, my firstborn son, I took 4 days off. When I gave birth to his twin sister and brother 3,5 years later, I didn’t take any days off. ¨Why? ¨ you may ask. I didn’t because I LOVE my work. It’s my calling. It kept me sane the first few months of having small babies. Granted, I didn’t have to be away from them. I could nurse in-between high-powered client sessions from the comfort of my home office. That said, I designed it that way. And so can you.
We’ve gone through an era when parents have spent more quality time with their children since the industrial revolution. It’s been very positive for the children and the parent-child relationship. In some ways however, the woman still draws the shortest stick. Why? There’s still a certain amount of shaming about a woman wanting to go back to work, longing for her career and giving her gift to the world.
Well, I wanted to come back. As I told you, I didn’t even leave! I have some career woman that come to me tell me that they don’t want to have children, because they love their careers. THAT should not have to be an either-or if you don’t want it to be. You don’t even have to be a ¨kid person¨ to have kids. You’re allowed to have them and love your career as much as you ever did.
I loved what I did and still do. It’s also been very important to me to contribute to my family’s finances and make my own money. I believe strongly in women making their own money, even if it may not be as much as their husband’s income (let’s face it – women STILL make less than men for the same work), because it contributes to equality in the relationship. I also believe a woman should never be forced to stay in a relationship due to finances, if the relationship is no longer working.
If you don’t have your own company like I do, and your company doesn’t offer maternity leave, or you want to stay home with your children for a while for your own reasons, you could be a trailblazer. Go invent something with your employer that works for the both of you. There may still be a way for you to contribute to the company’s progress from home on a smaller scale, obviously with lesser compensation, but you’d still have your job waiting for you when you’d be ready to ramp back up.
Now, if you’re saying to yourself, ¨but I want to do what YOU’ve done. Have my own business, work from home and be flexible around my kids’ lives. Rather than my kids having to be flexible around my work schedule!¨ If that’s how you feel, then call me. I’ll tell you exactly how I did it. Love, Jo
- On tomorrow’s iFix Friday Facebook Live, at 8.30 AM ET, I’ll be fielding questions about how to reconcile career and motherhood.
Also, if you want your own business, but don’t even know what it is yet, make sure you fill out the Purpose Assessment
PSS. I got the excellent pleasure of being interviewed on Lisa Kafer’s show Raising Healthy Kids. I’m taking this all one step further and claiming you can have your career and kids and they can still grow up healthy of mind and body!
It Lisa’s mission to help parents navigate this world to help their children be as healthy and happy as possible. In collaboration with a group of amazing men and women who are experts in all areas of child health and wellness, I am being interviewed for this informational video series hosted by Lisa Kafer, which starts August 27th, 2018. My interview airs the day after on August 28th. These experts and I will share with you, tips and tricks, resources and information to help you raise healthy kids in the Raising Healthy Kids summit.
Besides my interview on the topic of having kids be healthy, happy and free, you will meet some of the other top experts in the fields of parenting, healthy eating, mind/body/spirit connection, stress management, exercise and more.