When your business takes off, it can feel amazing and then, BAM: “Mom, you’re always working!” A protruding lower lip, a sunken head. A child’s sulky face and their mother’s broken heart. You have put your heart and soul into your work, but not everyone is excited. And if their words didn’t hurt enough, the guilt might be exacerbated by you secretly wanting to get back to your desk.
Summer holidays are no exception. The kids are at home, ready to play and spend time with their favourite big human, but there are 101 things on your to-do-list and playing is not topping that list.
The dilemma is always there: You love your kids and want to give them your time. But when you do, you fear you’re still only spending half the time you want and need on your business!
I’ve touched on this before, but it really helps to create reminders for yourself to talk to them about what you’re doing. Bring them into your brainchild so they can get excited with you.This creates stakeholders around you, who are invested in you winning. When it comes to the guilt you feel, processing and transforming it is an internal job.
If you have more than one child, think of what it was like when you had your second baby. Your beloved firstborn, the only apple of your eye, got dethroned – and felt it. Or think of when you yourself were little and your younger sibling arrived. Your business is much like that second baby. There’s no way around your eldest feeling shortchanged, almost no matter what. You know you love them both and that you’ll do your very best to take care of them equally.
Celebrate your wins with your family! Talk about your business to your children in ways they can understand to get them excited. You can even let them take part of some of the process to make them feel more included – sit them on your lap while you carry out some business-related task and take them through what is going on and what the goals are.
Guilt can trap you and impede your ability to think creatively. This new context lets you know that it’s not “your fault” but rather the nature of things. As your guilt eases up, it’ll let you get creative with how everyone can get their needs met – including you.