I watched Russell Brand’s movie about his recovery from addiction last night.
His big argument was to not put addicts on methadone, not to make them dependent on yet another drug. That a spiritual awakening and support uncovering someone’s underlying wounds was the only answer.
He may have made things too simplistic for some but he did claim his idealism. That it is not about just keeping someone alive but granting them a full life worth living.
I feel much the same way. I know a handful fantastic therapist, and then I have seen a bunch that are hugely invested in keeping people lost so that they will still be in business.
Just listening but not supporting someone in moving on perpetuates the problem. You feel better because you got to spill your guts, so you can go yet another round in the same habitual, pathological orbit. Whatever your issue is…
That’s why when I coach, I won’t listen to your problem unless you have an intention to do something about it. And THAT I will support you in till the end of time.