Are We Getting Numb?

Are we getting numb? Have we got “fear fatigue”?

Or is it that we’re getting better at defiance?

 

So wisely asked by the BBC in the UK.

You may call me morbid, but I look at the pictures from each attack.

Not oogling. I look and feel. Every time.

I will never EVER start to equal one attack with another.

Don’t you either.

 

I will also not stop addressing them, each time.

I will not give attention to the perpetrators, but to the situation – that we all together can defy, withstand and change the climate of terrorism – by not normalizing it, but by keeping up the dialogue about our young ones who get radicalized and our lone wolves who’re marginalized. They’re responsible, but so are we – for creating a society where caring for each and every person in it is a matter of personal, civic duty.

 

Each victim was a person with a past, a family, and a life to live.

This is not normal.

Don’t make it normal.

Feel. Help. Support. SPEAK.

 

#lasvegas “shooting “mandalay #nevada #attack #defy #resist

 

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/36804157/are-we-becoming-numb-to-terrorism-from-hearing-about-it-too-much

 

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/numbing-power-of-terrorism

 

https://globalnews.ca/news/2950665/this-is-part-of-life-now-americans-growing-numb-to-terror-attacks/

 

 

 

Why THIS woman matters…!

It’s National Poetry Day. What does poetry do with us humans that no other art form can? Maybe it’s in the brevity of the stanzas, the pauses and the way it leaves you half knowing, half not. I have had the honor to know a few poets. One of my favorite ones, as well as people on the planet, wrote below poem ¨Hidden¨ – award winning poet Naomi Shihab Nye. She is as lovely as her words are. This humble post is in honor of you today, Naomi – on National Poetry Day.

Hidden

If you place a fern
under a stone
the next day it will be
nearly invisible
as if the stone has
swallowed it.

If you tuck the name of a loved one
under your tongue too long
without speaking it
it becomes blood
sigh
the little sucked-in breath of air
hiding everywhere
beneath your words.

No one sees
the fuel that feeds you.

– Naomi Shihab Nye

 

@PoetryDayUK #poetsrock #poetsareneeded #supportyourlocalpoets

 

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Not my line but that of Angela Duckworth and her great little book on grit. I was a-MAZ-ed at my 4-yearold little twinkies running their first race yesterday. My boy took off like shot out of a cannon and my girl held my hand and ran. When we got to our umpteen hill, she didn’t complain, just recognized ¨You know, I’m a little tired. ¨ And still, she kept on. They both did, crossed the finish line and got their medal.

 

You know, I think of that, when I want to complain. Which I have noticed I tend to do! Like saying it’s going to be so hard is a way to let out some steam. But there are better ways. I could just say I’m a bit apprehensive or not sure how I will do. Because there is no telling how hard it’s going to be. Sometimes it is. And sometimes it isn’t…

What do YOU think? What adds to that stamina, that tenacity, that – grit?

 

Coach Jo

 

Campaign – ¨The Last Quarter Inch¨

Offer/Campaign –              

¨The Last Quarter Inch¨

 Hey you! Lots of exciting things coming up this fall, like the online summit about how to turn your hobby into your work. The summit launches Oct 19, but I also wanted to extend something overall, over-arching…!

 

I’ve named this campaign – ¨The Last Quarter Inch¨.  

If you are any like me – and the rest of the human race – you like to be comfortable. Going up against your edge is not. Currently, I’m going pushing my limit with my running coach. When I’ve nothing left to give, he pushes me that last quarter inch…!

That’s what I’m ready to do for you in this last quarter of the year!

Here is what you do:

 

1.     Look at your goals – what you said you wanted in the beginning of the year

2.     Assess where you currently are regarding those goals

3.     Get in touch with me to make the plan to fulfill as many of them as possible before year end

 

When you sign up for the basic coaching package, you get the following 3 items free! (value: $250)

1.     An online 3-session seminar on how to deal with fear and crisis!

2.     The training tool The Army uses to assess your stress level – super useful to know where you need to be to perform!

3.     A compilation of the most inspirational ¨getting-over-the-hump¨ quotes there are!

 

Make the year 2017 count – sign up now!

 

 

Warmly,

Coach Jo

 

 

 

An Equestrian Healer

…Satya, my four-year old twin daughter, is a horse girl. She is the youngest in the stable. Her feet barely reach the stirrups. Still – she is hooked. She has found her hobby, passion or whatever it will turn out to be. I, on the other hand, was never a horse girl. The teenagers in the stable are trying to convince me that ¨it’s so eeeasy to learn to saddle a horse.¨ I hold back the whisper that wants to erupt – ¨but I don’t want to learn…! Can you just saddle the horse please…??¨ Like someone who won’t own a sail boat, I love sailing on one – that’s me with horses. In the meantime, my respect is deep for people who can speak to horses, and who love them and care for them. One of those people, a true horse whisperer, is Trish Broersma.

Trish has been a therapeutic riding professional since 1988. She spent eleven years developing and conducting an innovative equine assisted learning program in human development for at risk teens and adults in transition, published in 2007 by New World Library in Riding into Your Mythic Life: Transformational Adventures with the Horse. Since then her work has focused on deepening the horse/human relationship for global purposes, with an emphasis on body-based modalities, the power of story, and liberty training with horses for eliciting their willingness, wisdom, and enthusiasm for interactions with people.

Again (and apparently, I can’t state this enough!) she’s letting me peek into a world that isn’t mine, namely that of horses as healing agents. Where Trisha’s and my work doesintersect is in our mutual commitment to heal people. Our modalities are different but the aim is the same. We restore faith in the self in our own ways and I very much admire how she has done it. I give you – Trish Broersma…

My Journey with Horses
– by Trish Boersma

There was a thread that I followed ever since I can remember.  It fueled my childhood with dreams of riding horseback, kept me day-dreaming at school, gave me clear-sighted vision of something more than my Oklahoma home scape, and carried my heart and soul through college, marriage, family, and one job after another.  It felt mostly like a yearning, a restlessness that led me onward.

The challenges along the way sometimes seemed insurmountable. They forced me to become creative and eventually led me to the work I now do with horses, healing work that reveals the sentient nature of horses and their key role in the human evolutionary journey for this particular time in history.

Some of the turning points:

Walking down a road leading one of my riding students and wrestling inside with how to do more meaningful work that could make a difference in the world, I looked up at a tree and somehow got the message from that tree that I knew horses in my bones, and that I had to somehow make that into something worthwhile.

Within months, I saw a newspaper article about therapeutic riding and with a burst of insight realized that I could combine my interest in medicine that had been left behind in college, with my love for horses.  I began bringing mildly disabled children into my teaching program.

Years later I designed a program for at-risk teens that incorporated the power of stories and my love of literature into a summer program, empowering young men and women in a residential treatment center.  It culminated in a book ten years later: Riding Into Your Mythic Life, Transformational Adventures with the Horse.

A man in Australia dreamed my name when out camping. Two years later I traveled there for two teaching tours.

Five years ago I was seeking a way to offer services with horses to my local community. I heard about a program for breast cancer survivors, which appealed to me because I had accompanied two friends through treatment and I sensed that one of my horses, who was not a good lesson horse, but was sensitive and interactive, might be a good horse to get started with. My friends were skeptical as her nickname was “Dominatrix,” but we quickly saw possibilities when she was completely engaged with our first attempts to try her out.  A few months later, we held a pilot program with the help of over 60 people in our community.  Our first client had completed chemotherapy and was taking a break before radiation treatment. She was somewhat apprehensive about horses but wanted to give it a try. After setting the stage for our first interaction between her and Mystic, she was asked to get acquainted by simply touching hand to muzzle in mutual greeting.  Within seconds, Mystic reached forward and began gently and actively nuzzling her solar plexus area.  I was astonished and on guard: Was the horse going to nip her as she continued this behavior for many long seconds?  Why was the client not moving away from such intimate interaction when I knew she was apprehensive? Finally after about 30 seconds, I asked the horse to move back.  Our client immediately told us with tears that Mystic was nuzzling the area of her tumor and that she had not moved away because she felt a powerful energy coming into her from the horse.  She will tell you even now, five years later that this was a life-changing moment. Mystic’s presence in her mind and heart continued to support her throughout the rest of her treatment and on into the present time.

For me and all of us, this was the beginning of our road to discovery of how Mystic, and other horses, too, offer similar remarkable interactions with people, unique interactions in every case, that have opened our eyes, our minds and hearts to the amazing power of healing through the heart of the horse.

Looking back, I could never in my wildest dreams have drawn the lines of this work, its incredible sense of fulfilling my own destiny, and my gratitude for the many people who have supported and accompanied me on this, the ride of my life.

You can meet Mystic at ridingbeyond.org and learn more about the work we do together.

Trish Broersma
trishbroersma.com

A Perfect Weekend

This Perfect Weekend

  • Waking up without the alarm clock…
  • Reading first thing…
·       A run – with intervals that make you suck air down your lungs…
  • Good food, drink and conversation …
  • A delicious family event; a festival, a museum…
  • Getting the laundry done – but not folding any…
  • Shinrinyoku – forest bath with loved ones…
  • Quiet time with the camera – even with kids – snapping shots of them or nature…

·       A long, hot luxurious bath…

·       Doing absolutely nothing time…

 
 
 

Warmly,

Coach Jo

Three Good Tips on How to Give and Receive Feedback

 

 

1. Commit

Elicit a commitment from both parties that the feedback should lead to something constructive. No dumping.

 2. Let people finish

No interrupting. If you listen to what someone has to say, it is very likely that they will check their assumptions themselves.

  3. Ask people to say more

Get more details and more detailed in the feedback. This way you move from problem to solutions based.

 

Comment with questions or more suggestions for great feedback!

Warmly,

Jo

How Honesty Builds Character

Starting Monday on an HONEST note. How it is a thrilling ride. To speak it, to search for it, to be led and inspired by it. See these thought-worthy quotes from heavy hitters in history and nifty truth tellers of today…Warmly, Coach Jo

This movie star! Ah – I give you Rosa Maria Fuentes Fernandez!

This movie star! Ah – I give you Rosa Maria Fuentes Fernandez!

From: Insta Turnaround Stories by Johanna Sawalha:

Rosa Maria was one of my dad’s friends I got to know. She is a rock star tutor. Everyone sends their kid to her. Her pattern – taking TOO much care. Others’ burdens. At home, she tends to hoard… (but stylish as she is – mostly fabulous books and clothes). I coached her. Here’s her testimonial of her incredibly fast turnaround!

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Hi Jo querida 🤗
How have you been ? I have seen your pics and you seemed extremely happy, enjoying time with your beautiful family and friends.
Me?
I have good news to share with you. It’s s like a “before and after version of me ” after having been coached by you!
You basically gave 3 tasks to follow and some suggestions to follow and I did!
1) I have been doing the ¨self-care¨ you assigned to me, plus a daily dosage of B12 and I started to feel so much better.
2) Now I have an Excel template to follow my income and expenses daily. So simple and so great 🤗.
3) Decluttering has been my motto and the house and especially myself look and feel so much better. Chapeaux!
Last time we talked I had only 6 pupils for July and August and now I am working with 24!
Things are happening!
I can’t thank you enough!
There is so much still to be done , I know and I feel so much better despite the bad weather round here. It has been raining for a month 😊😊😊😊
Let me know what else you want me to try, okey ?
P.S. I haven’t t read the 2 books you recommended yet but I will.
Loads of love to you,  gorgeou6girl, and your adorable family.
Rosamaria
❤❤