Yes, the summit is happening BUT wanted to give you something else as well…

¨Listening, ¨ Erich Fromm – the great thinker, therapist and writer said, “is an art like the understanding of poetry” and, like any art, has its own rules and norms. These are his six such guidelines for mastering the art of truly understanding another human being. In the era of #metoo #trump #blacklivesmatter, his words are more poignant than ever…

  • The basic rule for practicing this art is the complete concentration of the listener.
  • Nothing of importance must be on his mind, he must be optimally free from anxiety as well as from greed.
  • He must possess a freely-working imagination which is sufficiently concrete to be expressed in words.
  • He must be endowed with a capacity for empathy with another person and strong enough to feel the experience of the other as if it were his own.
  • The condition for such empathy is a crucial facet of the capacity for love. To understand another means to love him — not in the erotic sense but in the sense of reaching out to him and of overcoming the fear of losing oneself.
  • Understanding and loving are inseparable. If they are separate, it is a cerebral process and the door to essential understanding remains closed.

Work Your Passion Summit – Launching Today!

This summit is for you who feel:

  • Stuck in y0ur day job
  • Have a dream to create something that is truly yours
  • Work with what you are passionate about every day

Don’t miss it – sign up – it’s launching today!

Can’t wait to have you!

Warmly,

Coach Jo

Is it Time to Put Your Passions to Work? By Homaira Kabir

Editor’s note: Make sure to sign up for the Work Your Passion summit if you answered yes to the question in the title! Also, to contact Homaira, the author of this piece, see her information at the bottom.

Are you one of the 70% of employees who feels disengaged at work? Or part of the millions for whom work-related stress has become the source of ill health, anxiety and even depression. Which begs the question: Why are so many of us struggling?

 

The reason may lie in the fact that we’re still operating in a system that was established for the Industrial Economy. We clocked in the hours every day at work so we could enjoy ‘life’ in the evenings.

 

Today, that’s no longer the case. Thanks to technology, work has become a constant companion. It joins us on the way back home every evening. It packs itself in for each and every vacation. And it even crawls into bed with us and haunts us in the silence of the night.

 

Work life balance has become a myth at best. We’re squeezed dry and have nothing left to give. And since working life continues well into our sixties, we feel the doom and gloom of a life of perpetual misery.

 

But wait! We can change the way we relate to work by understanding what work means in the 21st century. We live in an age of increasing consciousness, or what entrepreneur Aaron Hurst calls the Purpose Economy. We’re rapidly advancing to what Harvard professor Robert Kegan calls the 4th stage of adult development – that of the self-authoring mind. We want to be the authors of our own lives and often it takes a little more than desire to get there.

 

Here are a few tips that will help!

 

Get to Know Your Passions

 

Many of us don’t know what truly brings us alive. It may be because we’ve left our passions to shrivel on the back burner. Or it may be because we were told very early on that our dreams weren’t worth much by those who didn’t have the capacity to honor them. Go back and dig them out again. What were the things that excited you when you were little? What are the things that you naturally gravitate towards now? Believe in them, experiment with them, and then ask yourself: Who can benefit from this passion of mine?

 

Develop a Plan

 

Once you’ve identified a passion, don’t rush to hand in your resignation the very next day! And there are many reasons for this. One, it may take you many months to be clear on the passion you want to pursue. Secondly, studies show that some of the most successful people wait on their best ideas before rushing to implement them. And finally, no business makes money on day one, and yours won’t likely be the first! Make a 5-year plan. By when will your business be financially feasible? And how will you support yourself and perhaps your family until then?

 

Focus on Giving

 

Always stay connected to why you started your business in the first place. Keep your passion alive by focusing on the value it brings to the people in your ‘tribe’ and the difference it makes to their lives. Get to know them as best you can so you’re always addressing their needs. Because as humans, we’re wired for reciprocity. If you offer value, people will pay you for it. If you don’t, you won’t fool anyone for very long. Trust in trust. It’s part of our inherent nature, and there’s no force that can change that!

 

Manage Self-doubt

 

When you’re starting out your own business, self-doubt will raise its head over and over again. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing since its job is to protect you from potentially detrimental decisions. However, given that we tend to focus on the negative, self-doubt has to be managed. You can do so by listening to it when it shows up, recognizing it for what it is, challenging the likelihood of the impending catastrophe, and then calming yourself with an outcome that’s not only far more likely, but also far more exciting.

 

Have a Support System

 

We are social animals. And even though we’ve become used to taking all the glory of our successes in the individualized societies we live in, we cannot get very far without the support of others. Studies show that human connection calms us in times of emotional pain, it helps us expand our repertoire of ideas and possibilities, and it’s also our source of meaning and fulfillment in life. So identify the people who can help you in your entrepreneurial journey. Who will be your guides, your mentors, your cheerleaders, your emotional support?

 

The good news is that when you honor your passions and live a life that’s true to who you are, people are drawn to you and willing to reward you in plenty for sharing your gifts with the world.

 

 

Homaira Kabir is a recognized positive psychology coach (http://www.homairakabir.com) and a researcher on women’s self-esteem. Check out her Confidence Academy (http://www.homairakabir.com) for free resources on building authentic self-worth.

 

The Work Your Passion summit!

Hey, hey!

You do NOT want to miss this 21-day summit – with the most amazing speakers. They will teach you EVERYthing you need to know about:

  • Starting out on your own
  • Quitting your desk job
  • Working with what you LOVE for a living…

Who should listen in? You – if you are DONE not doing what you love day-to-day!

Coach Jo

Are We Getting Numb?

Are we getting numb? Have we got “fear fatigue”?

Or is it that we’re getting better at defiance?

 

So wisely asked by the BBC in the UK.

You may call me morbid, but I look at the pictures from each attack.

Not oogling. I look and feel. Every time.

I will never EVER start to equal one attack with another.

Don’t you either.

 

I will also not stop addressing them, each time.

I will not give attention to the perpetrators, but to the situation – that we all together can defy, withstand and change the climate of terrorism – by not normalizing it, but by keeping up the dialogue about our young ones who get radicalized and our lone wolves who’re marginalized. They’re responsible, but so are we – for creating a society where caring for each and every person in it is a matter of personal, civic duty.

 

Each victim was a person with a past, a family, and a life to live.

This is not normal.

Don’t make it normal.

Feel. Help. Support. SPEAK.

 

#lasvegas “shooting “mandalay #nevada #attack #defy #resist

 

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/36804157/are-we-becoming-numb-to-terrorism-from-hearing-about-it-too-much

 

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/numbing-power-of-terrorism

 

https://globalnews.ca/news/2950665/this-is-part-of-life-now-americans-growing-numb-to-terror-attacks/

 

 

 

Why THIS woman matters…!

It’s National Poetry Day. What does poetry do with us humans that no other art form can? Maybe it’s in the brevity of the stanzas, the pauses and the way it leaves you half knowing, half not. I have had the honor to know a few poets. One of my favorite ones, as well as people on the planet, wrote below poem ¨Hidden¨ – award winning poet Naomi Shihab Nye. She is as lovely as her words are. This humble post is in honor of you today, Naomi – on National Poetry Day.

Hidden

If you place a fern
under a stone
the next day it will be
nearly invisible
as if the stone has
swallowed it.

If you tuck the name of a loved one
under your tongue too long
without speaking it
it becomes blood
sigh
the little sucked-in breath of air
hiding everywhere
beneath your words.

No one sees
the fuel that feeds you.

– Naomi Shihab Nye

 

@PoetryDayUK #poetsrock #poetsareneeded #supportyourlocalpoets

 

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Not my line but that of Angela Duckworth and her great little book on grit. I was a-MAZ-ed at my 4-yearold little twinkies running their first race yesterday. My boy took off like shot out of a cannon and my girl held my hand and ran. When we got to our umpteen hill, she didn’t complain, just recognized ¨You know, I’m a little tired. ¨ And still, she kept on. They both did, crossed the finish line and got their medal.

 

You know, I think of that, when I want to complain. Which I have noticed I tend to do! Like saying it’s going to be so hard is a way to let out some steam. But there are better ways. I could just say I’m a bit apprehensive or not sure how I will do. Because there is no telling how hard it’s going to be. Sometimes it is. And sometimes it isn’t…

What do YOU think? What adds to that stamina, that tenacity, that – grit?

 

Coach Jo

 

Campaign – ¨The Last Quarter Inch¨

Offer/Campaign –              

¨The Last Quarter Inch¨

 Hey you! Lots of exciting things coming up this fall, like the online summit about how to turn your hobby into your work. The summit launches Oct 19, but I also wanted to extend something overall, over-arching…!

 

I’ve named this campaign – ¨The Last Quarter Inch¨.  

If you are any like me – and the rest of the human race – you like to be comfortable. Going up against your edge is not. Currently, I’m going pushing my limit with my running coach. When I’ve nothing left to give, he pushes me that last quarter inch…!

That’s what I’m ready to do for you in this last quarter of the year!

Here is what you do:

 

1.     Look at your goals – what you said you wanted in the beginning of the year

2.     Assess where you currently are regarding those goals

3.     Get in touch with me to make the plan to fulfill as many of them as possible before year end

 

When you sign up for the basic coaching package, you get the following 3 items free! (value: $250)

1.     An online 3-session seminar on how to deal with fear and crisis!

2.     The training tool The Army uses to assess your stress level – super useful to know where you need to be to perform!

3.     A compilation of the most inspirational ¨getting-over-the-hump¨ quotes there are!

 

Make the year 2017 count – sign up now!

 

 

Warmly,

Coach Jo

 

 

 

An Equestrian Healer

…Satya, my four-year old twin daughter, is a horse girl. She is the youngest in the stable. Her feet barely reach the stirrups. Still – she is hooked. She has found her hobby, passion or whatever it will turn out to be. I, on the other hand, was never a horse girl. The teenagers in the stable are trying to convince me that ¨it’s so eeeasy to learn to saddle a horse.¨ I hold back the whisper that wants to erupt – ¨but I don’t want to learn…! Can you just saddle the horse please…??¨ Like someone who won’t own a sail boat, I love sailing on one – that’s me with horses. In the meantime, my respect is deep for people who can speak to horses, and who love them and care for them. One of those people, a true horse whisperer, is Trish Broersma.

Trish has been a therapeutic riding professional since 1988. She spent eleven years developing and conducting an innovative equine assisted learning program in human development for at risk teens and adults in transition, published in 2007 by New World Library in Riding into Your Mythic Life: Transformational Adventures with the Horse. Since then her work has focused on deepening the horse/human relationship for global purposes, with an emphasis on body-based modalities, the power of story, and liberty training with horses for eliciting their willingness, wisdom, and enthusiasm for interactions with people.

Again (and apparently, I can’t state this enough!) she’s letting me peek into a world that isn’t mine, namely that of horses as healing agents. Where Trisha’s and my work doesintersect is in our mutual commitment to heal people. Our modalities are different but the aim is the same. We restore faith in the self in our own ways and I very much admire how she has done it. I give you – Trish Broersma…

My Journey with Horses
– by Trish Boersma

There was a thread that I followed ever since I can remember.  It fueled my childhood with dreams of riding horseback, kept me day-dreaming at school, gave me clear-sighted vision of something more than my Oklahoma home scape, and carried my heart and soul through college, marriage, family, and one job after another.  It felt mostly like a yearning, a restlessness that led me onward.

The challenges along the way sometimes seemed insurmountable. They forced me to become creative and eventually led me to the work I now do with horses, healing work that reveals the sentient nature of horses and their key role in the human evolutionary journey for this particular time in history.

Some of the turning points:

Walking down a road leading one of my riding students and wrestling inside with how to do more meaningful work that could make a difference in the world, I looked up at a tree and somehow got the message from that tree that I knew horses in my bones, and that I had to somehow make that into something worthwhile.

Within months, I saw a newspaper article about therapeutic riding and with a burst of insight realized that I could combine my interest in medicine that had been left behind in college, with my love for horses.  I began bringing mildly disabled children into my teaching program.

Years later I designed a program for at-risk teens that incorporated the power of stories and my love of literature into a summer program, empowering young men and women in a residential treatment center.  It culminated in a book ten years later: Riding Into Your Mythic Life, Transformational Adventures with the Horse.

A man in Australia dreamed my name when out camping. Two years later I traveled there for two teaching tours.

Five years ago I was seeking a way to offer services with horses to my local community. I heard about a program for breast cancer survivors, which appealed to me because I had accompanied two friends through treatment and I sensed that one of my horses, who was not a good lesson horse, but was sensitive and interactive, might be a good horse to get started with. My friends were skeptical as her nickname was “Dominatrix,” but we quickly saw possibilities when she was completely engaged with our first attempts to try her out.  A few months later, we held a pilot program with the help of over 60 people in our community.  Our first client had completed chemotherapy and was taking a break before radiation treatment. She was somewhat apprehensive about horses but wanted to give it a try. After setting the stage for our first interaction between her and Mystic, she was asked to get acquainted by simply touching hand to muzzle in mutual greeting.  Within seconds, Mystic reached forward and began gently and actively nuzzling her solar plexus area.  I was astonished and on guard: Was the horse going to nip her as she continued this behavior for many long seconds?  Why was the client not moving away from such intimate interaction when I knew she was apprehensive? Finally after about 30 seconds, I asked the horse to move back.  Our client immediately told us with tears that Mystic was nuzzling the area of her tumor and that she had not moved away because she felt a powerful energy coming into her from the horse.  She will tell you even now, five years later that this was a life-changing moment. Mystic’s presence in her mind and heart continued to support her throughout the rest of her treatment and on into the present time.

For me and all of us, this was the beginning of our road to discovery of how Mystic, and other horses, too, offer similar remarkable interactions with people, unique interactions in every case, that have opened our eyes, our minds and hearts to the amazing power of healing through the heart of the horse.

Looking back, I could never in my wildest dreams have drawn the lines of this work, its incredible sense of fulfilling my own destiny, and my gratitude for the many people who have supported and accompanied me on this, the ride of my life.

You can meet Mystic at ridingbeyond.org and learn more about the work we do together.

Trish Broersma
trishbroersma.com