It’s OK to be needy…

I got a call recently from a woman who through many roundabout ways found me…
She said she needed me.  Desperately.
She spilled everything about why and after some tears too, we decided how to
get her started and where to unravel the big mess she feels her life is in.

Afterwards, I thought about people needing people.
I think the word need gets a bad rap.
Like being needy.
I personally love that people need each other.
If they didn’t, there would be no exchange in the world.
Or shared creativity.
And no intimacy.

I went to the dictionary and read some definitions of the word need.
Here are three I found that lightly blew my mind:


1. A condition or situation in which something is required or wanted: crops in need of water; a need for affection.
2. Something required or wanted; a requisite: “Those of us who led the charge for these women’s issues … shared a common vision in the needs of women” (Olympia Snowe).
3. To be necessary.

How often don’t we deny our absolute need to be nurtured, supported, cheer lead, backed up, helped, sparred, partnered with, heard, held…?  Where do you deny your needs?  I want to know.

One Reply to “It’s OK to be needy…”

  1. We’re in Boulder/Denver helping my step daughter and son in law. They are having a baby on Friday, have a 3yr old, their house is in foreclosure and they have no money and are moving to an apartment in 10 days and haven’t begun to pack. Boy are they needy. I have to be careful not to go into rescue overdrive. I love helping them but not to the point of smothering them.

    At the same time, we are have needs ourselves. My husband and I are conscious of the importance of nurturing each other and are working as a team, solving our own business and financial challenges every day and taking care of our bodies with exercise and healthy food and some activities just for ourselves. We can really see how important it is to be partners right now. It allows us to be supportive and calm with others.

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