What Do the Already Successful Do Next?

Most my clients already do fairly well. They are not newbies. They’re the kind of people you look at and think ¨they’ve arrived¨. But they have both challenges and aspirations.

I went to interview high performers about how THEY up-level their game.

Once you’ve reached a certain level of success, what do you want NOW?…kind of thing…

Meet power house Victoria Locke, researcher and analyst –

 

Warmly,

Coach Jo

PS. Make sure to book a free call if you want to learn what your next step to being a high performer is!

 

 

Before I go on vacation tomorrow, we need to talk

You know, I thought to write you this when I saw one of my friends and followers online share one of my latest videos and write a thoughtful comment on it (thank you Dr. Katharine Kay McMillan). And I thought, ¨why doesn’t everybody who sees this comment…? ¨ I know you see it. Stats don’t lie.

Wherefore do you not comment then…? I’ve had some of you tell me that you love my blog, posts, videos and follow me religiously. But. You. Never. Engage. ¨Likes¨ don’t count. They’re too easy and they don’t convey what you really think. So – the e reason I need to talk to you about this is two-fold:

  1. I research and prep for my posts as a service and a thank you to those who care, and those I work with. Trust me, there are no payments coming my way from my posts. It takes time, work and effort. I do it because I care. If I speak into a silent, dark space I’m not feeling the love back. The love that you have told me you have for me.
  2. This is not television. Don’t be a passive ¨taker-inner¨. A sign of leadership is you show up, you be present, and you participate. I recycle this lesson with my kids often. They don’t have to score, they don’t even have to play to win, but they do have to participate. And not half-assed. Fully.
  3. The way you participate online is the way you participate everywhere. You’re either on the side lines, observing, or you’re in the game – playing. Where else do you let life take its course without you? Where else do you assume someone else’s ¨got it¨? So you don’t have to?

I try to always assume it’s me someone’s talking to. I may make the choice not to pursue a certain cause or conversation, but it’s an active choice and I can speak to it. Speak to why I make the choices I make. No one will be left uncertain where I stand. Either way, I participate. Even when I don’t feel like participating, I participate.

I remember anxious moments as a kid, when I chose to sit out. Because I felt too much performance pressure, and I was too afraid to fail. All my failures in life though, have taught me it is SO much more fun to participate and fail, than to not try at all.

Bottom line? Engage, participate, do NOT hold back your contribution. You could be making someone day today. Like mine.

Love,

Coach Jo

Frolicking and participating with my kids this past weekend!

Take Stock of What You’re Proud Of – You Should – You’re AMAZING!

Feel down in the dumps? Or unsure of your worth? Not confident you’ve ¨got it¨?

I spoke to a lovely woman this morning who confided in me that she’s ¨always only gone for things in life that she knew she could do¨. In other words, she never truly jumped into the unknown nor grab a challenge completely out of her comfort zone. She’s now up against that very same lesson again, as an executive position is being offered to her, and she’s scared to take it. I told her, ¨this is not the time to be chickening out. How many times have you shied away from becoming the true leader that you are…? ¨ We’re going for coffee in a bit – can’t wait to hear what she actually did, if she went for it… (you know who you are!)

Wanna’ feel like a million bucks? Go bigger. See yourself going for things WAY bigger in life and business than you ever thought you could handle. Feel scared? Take stock of your accomplishments and EVERYTHING you’re proud of – EVERYthing you’ve managed well – and SO well – so far…Chances are, you have a LOT more things to be proud of than you think.

Look to these four main areas of your being, and you’ll find TONS of things to be proud of. Here are some ideas to stir your imagination!

In the physical sphere of your life…

  • Think about how many times, amidst life’s ups-and-downs, you’ve been able to…

Run a race, even though you have kids, a spouse, a job, and tons of other responsibilities….

Keep your body healthy and fit – or just going…that you’re here and still breathing is a miracle, given how crazy complicated life is!

Travel, learn new cultures and understand peoples…

Keep a nice home, even when you didn’t have an ounce of energy left…

In your mental life…

  • Think about how many times, amidst life’s ups-and-downs, you’ve been able to…

Get an education, degree or land a job…

Find work that supports yourself and your family…

Have the courage to take a risk, change or explore jobs that would make you happy…

Get recognized for your work well done…

 

In your financial life…

  • Think about how many times, amidst life’s ups-and-downs, you’ve been able to…

Save a significant amount of money for future needs – that takes will power and you did that…

Have minimal and manageable credit, and when you’ve gotten into debt, you’ve managed to get out of it…

Spend only what you can afford and not beyond your means…

Buy your own home or find a first-hand rental contract….

Invest intelligently in stocks or business….

 

In Your Emotional Life…

  • Think about how many times, amidst life’s ups-and-downs, you’ve been able to…

Approach something new with confidence, even though you’re both scared and unsure…

Approach life joyfully regardless of circumstance…

Be open and friendly toward those around you, despite the mood you woke up into…

Assert your personal need to pamper yourself…

Find your soulmate and partner forever…you know that can be a needle in a haystack – but you found it!

Have patience with your significant other or yourself…

Be compassionate towards other people…

Say, “I love you,” even when you’ve been upset, sad or tired…

Spend quality time with your family, even when you’re out of steam…

Have kids with your life partner, even though you love your career…

 

In your spiritual life…

  • Think about how many times, amidst life’s ups-and-downs, you’ve been able to…

Face failures, take responsibility and persevere…you’ve been a survivor many, many times over…

Take quiet time to reflect and be still…

Say ¨no¨ to bullying in your environment, be it at school, at work, online, or in the neighborhood…

Write a helpful post on Facebook or in your blog, uplifting those around you…

Truly listen to another…

Go out of your way to make a call or visit someone you care about, even when you don’t actually have the time…

Contribute to a charity, not because you can afford it, but because it’s the right thing to do…

 

YOU.

Are amazing.

Be proud.

Love,

Coach Jo

PS. I will LISTEN to your OWN personal list. Set up a call. I will just sit there and listen to EVERYthing you are proud of or SHOULD be proud of. THAT would be fun – do it!

 

 

6-Min Ditty on How to Get Over Hurt Pride

I used to get SO hurt. And the wrong people (for me) knew EXACTLY how to get me. Because I was so gettable! I would churn on someone’s dig or negative comment for days. Have you ever felt this way? Sleepless over something that you know you took personally – but can’t get over?

I recorded this little piece for you this AM. Hope it helps…xoxo, Coach Jo

6-Min Ditty on How to Get Over Hurt Pride

  1. Hurt people hurt others
  2. Make yourself impervious to emotional assault
  3. Seek the feel-good
  4. It takes two
  5. The Buddhist practice of ¨tonglen¨
  6. Meditation and reflection

PS. If you have an emotional space that you CANNOT seem to get out of, call me. I extend a free 30-min call to anyone who calls me for the first time.

 

 

Proud to be Proud!

This is the last week of Pride month, where we celebrate our right to choose our romantic partner and recognizing that we fall in love, not with a gender, but with a person.

I chose it as the theme of the week, also because being proud is something that concerns all of usl. Pride counts as one of the seven deadly sins. Is it really though?

Research shows that pride can be a source of motivation. Wouldn’t you also say that your own pride in some ways upholds your standards? Your pride is a stop lock, a security latch, if you will, that prevents you from stooping too low.

Being proud has gotten a bad rap. It’s being confused with hubris, which yes, we could consider a sin. Hubris manifests itself as excessive self-confidence, arrogance and an inflated ego. Without judgement, we can consider all those things a form of ignorance – of which we won’t want to take part.

I remember discovering a place in my life where I was not proud. It was back in my days as a music student in Los Angeles. My cousin came to visit and remarked that my nuked rice with a bit of curry sprinkled on top did not constitute a meal. Later, my husband caught me in that same low-level feeding of myself when we first met. Being French, good food equals religion, and seeing me (again) nuke broccoli and then spray it with ¨I Can’t Believe It’s Butter¨-spray and calling that my lunch – he was appalled! He made me throw out the 3 bottles in my fridge and bought real butter.

Since then, I make beautiful meals for myself, even when I dine alone. Why? As a matter of pride. In my health, in my body, in who I am to myself and others. Not to mention, feeling worthy enough to enjoy my food every meal.

What you have in your life is a direct reflection of what you think you deserve.

If what you are doing and what you have does not make you proud, maybe it’s time to rethink your priorities and strategies in life. Best practices – put on repeat in your calendar to do quarterly: 

  • Take stock of what you’re proud of in life
  • Take stock of what you’re not proud of
  • Write it all down
  • Take 3 actions to remedy where you’re not proud
  • Tell me about it!

Being proud of yourself, and becoming aware where pride is lacking, is often what drives us to change our behavior. Also be aware that your lack of pride can slip into shame. When we feel shame, we go into hiding. Feeling shameful and in hiding is lonely and a definite cause of suffering. Take those feelings as a cue to take action.

Love,

Some good books on healthy pride:

¨Pride: The Secret of Success¨, by

Jessica Tracy, Psychologist at British Columbia University

¨Gay is Good¨, by Franklin Kameny

¨The Power of Your Subconscious Mind¨, by Joseph Murphy, Ph.

 

PS. Schedule a free call with me and I will help you if you get stuck,

xoxo, Coach Jo

Can I ask you a vulnerable question? About money?

Dear you….

Do you feel your upbringing prevents you from creating money today? Here’s why I’m asking you this, because until I start working on it, it totally did for me. 

During my formative years, my mother was a single mom with me. Her favorite joke was, ¨We’re having your favorite dinner tonight! ¨ I answered, ¨on no – blood pudding! Not again! ¨

Blood pudding was cheap, nutritious (lots of iron), and frankly, what my mother could afford at the time. So, I get this.

When I lived with this story still intact, without a lot of money, I was giving away my power EVERYWHERE. It affected my self-worth, I would self-sabotage without knowing I was. My “ah-a!” moment came 1) got a mentor 2) saw my community make money and not having an issue with it. I was done! Why not me as well? Why couldn’t I also get what I was worth? Both get it for myself as well getting monetarily rewarded for my efforts.

I would no longer play victim in my life.  I took my power back and that is when wealth starting flow back to me.

If you find yourself struggling with money, you’re still stuck in a money mindset you inherited. It’s not yours and you can transform it. Guaranteed.

I know you want to live free from money worry.  I can help you get your power back, so your money starts flowing back to you.

If that would bring you relief, then book your call HERE and my team and I will call you to create your money relief plan.

Much love,

P.S. Our spots do fill up quickly, especially at this time of year.  I want to make sure to fit you in so book your call HERE, so we can get your money flowing and your power flowing back to YOU!

If none of these times work for you, just let us know by hitting reply and we’ll work with you to fit you in.

Xoxo – Jo